How to Be a Real Friend Even When It Is Hard

Hey, carpool crew. Whether you're hanging out with your best friend today or riding solo with your snack cup, I'm Pastor Justin. I'm so glad you're here. We're talking about real friendship today, not just who you play video games with or who sits next to you at lunch. We're talking about the kind of friend who's there when things are not fun. Because let's be honest, life isn't always popsicles and pool days, is it? Sometimes it's messy. Sometimes life is hard. And that's when you find out who your real friends are. Today's verse is from Proverbs chapter 17, verse 17. A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a difficult time. Proverbs is a book of wisdom, mostly written by King Solomon, one of the wisest people to ever live. He wrote these short, powerful sayings to help people make good decisions in everyday life. This one reminds us that true friends don't disappear when things get hard. They're not just in it for the fun, sleepovers and birthday parties. A real friend shows up when you're sick, when you're sad, when you got a really bad grade on a test, and when you've messed up and need a little grace, you know, forgiveness. And Solomon compares that kind of friend to a brother during a difficult time, meaning someone who sticks by you like family. Even in the middle of a storm. If Jesus were in the backseat with you today, I think he'd say something like, I am the kind of friend who sticks with you no matter what, and I want you to be that kind of friend for others too. And make sure you look for that quality in your friends, because times get difficult. See, Jesus modeled this perfectly. He stuck by his disciples when they messed up. He forgave Peter when he denied him. He washed their feet even when they didn't understand him. He stayed loyal even when it cost him everything. He's not a part-time friend, and he doesn't want us to be either. So how can you love your friends at all times, not just the fun times? When your friend is having a bad day, don't avoid them. Sit with them. See how they're doing. Ask them what they need. When a friend messes up, be forgiving. Everyone needs a second chance sometimes, including you. And when someone is left out, be the one who notices them, invites them. That's what Jesus would do. Maybe you're tired, maybe you're busy. But showing up for a friend, even with a kind word or a quick prayer, makes a big difference. A good friend shows up at all times, not just the good times, and when you're that kind of friend, you help people see the love of Jesus. And he made you to be a friend who sticks. Even when life is sticky. Remember, no matter where you are or how you're listening, God loves you. Before you go, answer this question together. When is it hardest to be a good friend, and what would it look like to love someone even then? I'll see you tomorrow on Carpooling with Jesus.